When someone asks me to contribute or help or do or believe or think this or that, my initial gut reaction is to do it because I want to please them (Yes, I'm human). When it comes to something I have already made up my mind not to do, it causes me a very real stress/worry/anxiety to have to decline/disagree. I do not like to cause or be around conflict, who does?
The thought occurred to me recently to put myself in the other person's shoes. If you have ever been in sales, it's a salesperson's job to try to persuade others to do/buy something. It makes me feel better to think about how many times a salesperson might propose something and the other person was not convinced. (If you're getting one yes out of every ten, that's about average. That means there were 9 "No"s.) If I think about it that way, it's not a make or break conflict - disagreement happens all the time - in fact possibly even the majority of the time. I have to tell myself it's okay for the differences to exist - it's what makes humans beautiful.
What would you do next? What are some phrases you use when you know the only possible outcome is to agree to disagree? On the other hand, have you ever disagreed initially only to later come to a different way of looking at something?
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